Here's a question about an experience many of us have had, but few of us will admit to. This was a real reader question, used by permission here. This is what I said to encourage a reader who struggles with comparing herself to another woman. Dear Heather: A new woman...
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Four Ways (for Christian Girls) to Know if He’s “the One”
You walk through the day as if you're floating on a cloud. You no longer need sleep, food, or Netflix. You're in love. . . He's all you can think about and it seems he feels the same. Maybe you've said, "I love you" or you feel it's coming soon. You'd never tell him...
Five Things Happily Married Women Do
I celebrate twelve years of marriage this week and, though I’ve come a long way, I still have much to learn! This past summer I had the opportunity to observe a few happily married women who’ve past the three, four, and five (Wow!) decades mark of marriage and are...
I’m Tired of Waiting: What to do while you are waiting on God!
I read her Facebook post and couldn't stop my lips from settling into a giant smile. It read: When will I look older? Ahhh . . . I remember feeling that way; visiting a college campus and hoping that people would think I looked eighteen instead of sixteen. Now that...
How Not to Marry a Loser
Don't marry a loser. Trust me. I've dated my fair share. Maybe this sounds familiar: He said he believed in God, but not organized religion. "That counts, right?" I convinced myself. He was kind of cute. What mattered most was that he really liked me. That felt good....
Being Reasonable in Marriage
Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God....
Can Focusing on How We Are Alike Cure Comparison?
"Mom, I"m just like Iron Man." My four-year-old paces beside my desk as I work. He explains to me that he and Iron Man have a lot of similarities. They are both boys, for starters. They both like to wear red. They both like Legos. (Of course Iron Man plays Legos....
Disoriented:: When God Changes Your View of Everything
I think I know what it might have been like to wake in ancient Judah, to go out of my house and not see the high places, the altars, the pillars to familiar gods that had been there the day before. There must have been a palpable buzzing of shock and anxiety, as well...
How Do I Get My Husband To Affirm Me More?
Dear Heather: I believe that if my husband would more frequently tell me that I'm beautiful, if he'd look at me as if I was desirable, and if he'd talk to me more about what he likes about my body, I wouldn't wrestle my body image so much. But, instead he barely says...