Today’s show features best-selling author and Proverbs 31 speaker Karen Ehman. Karen and Heather talk about people pleasing, why we do it, how it hurts us, and how to know when we’re doing it. If you’re afraid to say no or feel stuck in a people-pleasing rut, today’s episode is for you!

Karen shares her story of people pleasing and how her childhood family dynamics contributed to her tendency to work for others’ approval. Karen also tells how God asked her to pause from everything she did to serve in various ways. Karen candidly shares the way friends reacted when she stopped doing some of what she’d always done. She also shares what God taught her about her value, worth, and identity through this exercise. People pleasing doesn’t have to bog you down. Listen and learn from the wisdom Karen shares.


Karen Ehman is a Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and New York Times bestselling author. Described as profoundly practical, engagingly funny, and downright real, her passion is to help women to live their priorities and love their lives as they serve God and others. She loves coconut and dark chocolate, sharpened Ticonderoga #2 pencils, and she considers it an honor to tell others about the gospel—the good news of Jesus Christ. Learn more about Karen here:

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