What do you do when you feel fat? Of course, most know by now that "fat" isn't really a feeling. Yet, how many of us say it? It's what we say when we don't know any other words to express displeasure with how our bodies look or feel. Today, Heather explores six things...
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Big, Fat Lies About Identity: Trading for the Truth
Why did I choose today to let her pick her own clothes?! Of course, today we’d bump into her--the mom that makes me feel like the Peg Bundy to her June Cleaver. I looked down at my daughter. Princess dress. Leopard boots. Red Christmas coat. Christmas was weeks past...
Are You Confusing Your Daughter’s Body Image?
I'm riled up right now because I just read another woman's blog post that may well have been written in response to one of mine. The title of her post was something like "No, I won't put on my swimsuit." The author attempts to make the point that she doesn't need to...
Did You Just Call Me Fat? Finding Hope Even When Words Hurt
“Marlee, I need my hands. When you’re chunky like your mom and I, you need your hands to get up. That’s just what fat people do.” Oh, no she did not. But one look at my daughter’s face confirmed what I already knew: Oh, yes, she did. An ordinary playdate on an...
An Important Fight: Keep Fighting For Your Body Image
Five months before I wrote my first post for Compared to Who?, I spent a summer at home in Uganda with my family. Which included three and a half months of drinking water, no cookies, late night talks with ginger tea, laughing hard, and taking long uphill walks. When...
Dear 2017: A Poem
When I sat down to write this, I fully intended to write a deep, authentic, well-written, full-length post, like the ones typically seen on Compared to Who? But everything I drafted sounded like I was at a job interview wearing pinchy shoes, so I tossed them....
Shopping Cart Righteousness and Drive Thru Shame
Imagine yourself in a back alley of a questionable neighborhood, wearing a hooded coat which hides your guilty eyes. You shift your weight from side to side, resist the urge to run, and command yourself; “Be cool man. Just be cool. No one will know. Just a few more...
Joy and Fear of the Holiday Season
This is by far, my favorite time of year. Brisk mornings with a hot cup of coffee in hand. Apple-cinnamon aroma that fills the entire house. Vibrant red and orange leaves falling from the trees. A crackling fireplace warming the living room. Christmas music and...
Worried About Daughter’s Weight? How to Stop Freaking Out!
As my daughter stood next to me in the bathroom and put on the tiny bit of mascara and lip gloss she announces that she thinks the crocheted head warmer she's wearing is "too much" for her outfit. I look at my wonderfully made, beautiful daughter in the mirror-- the...
My Eating Disorder Story: Battling Bulimia & Receiving New Grace
It's my pleasure to introduce to you our newest contributor, Alicia Hunter from Turquoise Grace. Today Alicia shares her story of battling bulimia and how God's grace has worked in her life to bring her to a new place of health. I hope you'll read it and encourage...