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Book: Burden of Better

The Burden of Better is For: Working Women

Whether you’re working at home, climbing a corporate ladder, clocking in and out of shifts or setting your own hours—we women work hard. If I’m honest, I’m probably more likely than most men I know to “overwork.” It’s hard for me to rest. There’s always something else...

The Burden of Better is For: Single Women

Another bridesmaid dress. Another wedding in which I’d play a supporting role—when all I wanted was the lead. How many more bouquets did I need to catch to make it my turn? What was I doing wrong? Was I emitting an “I prefer to be single” code detected only by...

The Burden of Better is For: Recovering Dieters

I confess: You’d be hard pressed to name a diet I haven’t tried. Eating for my blood type, by color, only carbs (it was the thing in the 90s!), no carbs (it’s the thing now)… You name it. I’ve done it. They always ended with me feeling hungry, maybe a little angry,...

The Burden of Better is For: Church Girls

Church girls: Have you ever found yourself falling into the trap of comparison, even at church, the place where you grew up learning not to envy? I've certainly caught myself more than once. Don’t worry. There’s no way she felt my gaze. I stood on the balcony, hidden...

The Burden of Better is For: Fashion-Lovers

I’ll be the first to admit: I love clothes. I own way too many and sometimes spend hours thinking of new outfits and trying things on, attempting to find the perfect balance between flattering, trendy, and comfortable. I'm a fashion-lover, but what would God say about...

The Burden of Better is For: Homeschool Moms

Maybe you were homeschooling long before the letters COVID ever took over the globe. Or, maybe you’re trying it this year for the first time and not sure what the rest of this year holds. Either way, homeschool moms - this new book, “The Burden of Better” is for you....

The Burden of Better is For: Leaders

My oldest son, barely 4-years-old at the time, was my companion for a road trip. I was behind the wheel and not wasting any time getting to our destination. As we passed a car, he yelled out from the backseat, “Yay! Mommy wins the race!” I laughed so hard. I’ve never...

The Burden of Better is For: Friends

Okay. Confession time. Have you ever struggled with comparing yourself to your FRIENDS? Oh my. It’s about to get real. We all need friends. Sometimes making them isn’t the problem – it’s keeping them. When comparison whispers it’s lies to us about where we stand as...