It was all over my Facebook newsfeed last week. The mom…in the bikini…the one with the saggy skin and stretch marks. You saw her, right?
We all saw her. It’s how we responded that’s what causes my concern.
The headline on the Huffington Post story read this way, “Mom’s ‘Flabby’ Bikini Picture Inspires Other Women to Flaunt Their Bodies With Pride.” This happens every time another woman dares to wear a bikini with a less than airbrushed looking physique, we get excited and praise her, lauding her bravery and feeling like maybe we should feel better about our imperfect bodies too.
I get it.
They stage sit-ins of moms with imperfect bodies bearing their bellies or they do viral social media campaigns snapping pictures of cellulite and sag. We are coerced into thinking, Wow, this is the way. This will do it! We’ll beat this body image thing yet by loving our love handles and adoring our dimply bottoms.
It seems right.
But, I need to tell you a secret. It’s a BIG secret. All those folks encouraging you to take pride in your body–no matter what it looks like–they aren’t helping you or me.
I know, I know, it feels like they are. It seems like it’s a message you should “Amen!” and “I love my stretch marks and post-baby belly, too!”
But, that pride in your body, it’s misplaced.
Pride isn’t God’s answer. Ever.
Self love or self loathing, they are both pride, just opposite sides of the coin. The woman who takes pride in loving her body is just the same as the woman who loathes the skin she’s in. Both are overly focused on the outside.
Want to be free? Instead, of staring in the mirror until you make peace with your physique, turn that mirror up. No, I don’t want you to stare in it and hate what you see. But, I also don’t want you to stare in it and love what you see (Hello, Narcissism?)
The freedom comes with self forgetfulness. Let me say it one more time: The FREEDOM comes with self-forgetfulness. Not self love.
Freedom from bondage can never come from increasing pride. Love Jesus. Not cellulite.
Your heart will become proud and you will forget the LORD your God. Deuteronomy 8:14
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