The Burden of Better is for daughters, so if you’re a woman reading this, then I’m talking to you so you can have a comparison-free life!
To be honest, I used to think that I had to be the best. The best at what? That didn’t really matter. If I was doing it, no sense in doing it halfway. I had to be the best student, the best employee, the best in my kickboxing class, the best mom, the best wife, the best friend. My thinking was no different when it came to my relationship to my parents. I felt like I had to be the best daughter, a perfect child. I set an expectation I could never live up to perfectly.
After spending so much time competing in my head, with myself and others, I almost lost touch with reality. But here’s the truth: a life stuck in comparison is an existence of both burden and struggle, with no redemption. You always need to do more, have more, be more. Comparison captures us in its prison—trying to meet the impossible and ever-changing standard of better. You can’t be fully present in the life and relationships God designed for you when you constantly wonder what they would be like if they were more like hers.
As a daughter, perhaps you’ve struggled with this type of burden in some way or another, whether you’ve compared your relationship with you parents to those of your friends or you’ve set an “ideal daughter” image in your head that weighs you down. I invite you to check out my new book, “The Burden of Better,” to learn more about the pathway to a life free from “better.”
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Check out my first book, “Compared to Who?” here!