Summertime, Covet-time? Ending Summer Body Envy

Summer's here! Check out Wendy's thoughts on summer body envy in today's post, especially if you need a little humor to lighten your day! The beach is the worst place for it. Out there enjoying the sun and surf are hundreds of people in swimsuits. The ones that bother me the most are not the people who are a bit overweight. After all, where is it written, “Thou shalt have a flat stomach before donning a swimsuit”?” No, the ones that bug me are the young, thin, large-busted women. There are no “Thou shalt nots” about having the right body for a swim suit. But God does say, “Thou shalt not covet.” Then the Bible gives a whole ...

Always the Bridesmaid: Do You Struggle to Feel Like the Bride?

With the arrival of the summer wedding season comes two conflicting thoughts for most single women: 1) I'm really happy that my friend is getting married. And, 2) Why am I still single? Or, as put another way: "Why am I always the bridesmaid?" I walked through my twenties checking "single" on my tax return. Every. Single. Year. Of course, paying taxes was nothing compared to what I spent to help others' change their status. I paid for gowns I'd only wear once. I paid for airplane tickets, hotel rooms, bridal showers, and uncomfortable shoes. I knew what a bridesmaid had to do. She had to spend her time and money to watch someone else's dream come true. I gushed over ...

Control Freak Versus Jesus Freak: Letting Go of ‘My Way’

I never realized how much of a control freak I really am until I got married and had kids. Heather confessed how a control freak almost ruined her marriage here, now it's my turn to confess. See, I get this twitch in my left eye when my daughter puts on her red polka dot rain boots with her pink floral leggings . . . and don't even get me started about the way my husband loads the dishwasher! (Seriously, how does he think they will get clean when they are stacked on top of each other?) I try to explain to my family that I have certain "preferences" for things, but what I really mean is that ...

Just a Little More Beauty, Lord: A Poem

"Just a Little More Beauty, Lord," is an original poem! My first, in fact. It may not be Emily Dickinson but I hope these words will still touch you and (maybe) make you smile as you reflect on the truth about our desires and our body image struggles . . . Just a little more beauty, Lord. That's what I'm asking from you. I'm not begging for a model's thighs or to wear a slim size two.   Smooth out these rolls, this dimply skin, lift up some sag, if you will. Wipe out each stretch mark too please, Lord. I know you have the skill.   Just a little more beauty, Lord. Not a lot. It won't be trouble. Grant me more ...

Are You a Fixer Upper, too? What Body Image and Home Improvement Have in Common

I love home improvement shows. I'm so inspired watching the amazing transformations. These brilliant designers take a hideously ugly, old and dilapidated home and turn it into a modern day dream house. It's really quite impressive. I'm also a little obsessed with Fixer Upper. (Maybe a "little" is an understatement.) Last year while we were searching for a new home, I Googled how to be on the show. When I suggested to my husband that we move a mere 65 miles away (to be within range of houses Chip and Jo will re-do), he turned off our cable. I made the pilgrimage to Waco with some friends (and my daughter--she's also a fan) the day after Christmas. They ...

Bigger House, Better Body?

“If I lived here, I would totally get thin. . .I mean healthy. I’d invite people over to my house and in 6 months you'd look at me and tell how much happier I was. . . All I’d have to do is walk up and down this amazing private road every day, and work in this amazing garden, and clean this incredible house, and live this incredible new life! You can’t live in a house like this and just look like Walmart. I’d have to learn to look like I had some class. ” This is just one of many thoughts that crossed my mind this last weekend as I tried on a life of a larger, ...

A Letter to God About My Body

This is a guest post, "A Letter to God About My Body" is written by a new friend named Meg. There are so many good lines in here, I can't even pick one to quote for you. Just read it all. Every word. You won't regret it. -Heather Dear God: This has been a topic that I have definitely avoided writing about. But since I felt the urge during my time with you this morning, I know I must listen to the call. I knew it would come. And what better time than right now. (She sits in her postpartum body and sips her coffee.) So I chose to give you my body image issues for Lent this year. ...

How to Try on a Swimsuit (and Not Hate Your Body)

She unlocks the dressing room door and then steps out of the way for me to enter. I smile, mumble a thank you, and lock it behind me. I turn around to assess my finds. Will any of these look as good on me as they do on the hanger? I doubt it. Alas, you can't go to the pool in Yoga pants (Though I've tried. It's hot.). My suit from last year is stretched out in all the wrong places. This has to be done. (Deep cleansing breath.) Swimsuit shopping: I loathe it. But it's not just me . . . Every woman I know--whether she shops in plus-sized or petitite's--dreads the day the dressing room mirror casts ...

Do You Have to ‘Love’ Your Body? A Christian Perspective on Body Positivity

Stunned, I sat in front of my television. I could not believe what I just witnessed. The Today show featured a fashion consultant named Gok Wan who said he had discovered the answer for women with body image issues. Are you ready for this? He invites women to his studio, has them strip in front of a mirror, then stare at their reflections until they decide to like what they see. After they wave, "Yoohoo...Gok, I accept my body now!" he dresses them fashionably. Gok believes women must feel good about what's underneath the clothes before the clothes matter. Sure, why not? I could not make this up. (Here's the evidence.) Gok says,"it's a multi-step process: Looking, learning and ...