Pregnancy and Body Image: When Pregnancy Ain’t No Picnic

Today the Pregnancy and Body Image Series continues with Esther's story of the roller coaster ride her pregnancies, weight gain, and eventual PPD took her on. During pregnancy I experienced the most self-loathing I’ve ever felt in my entire life. Before pregnancy, I wouldn’t say that I had any body image problems. I’ve always been pretty average, pretty athletic, and pretty satisfied with the body God gave me. But, during pregnancy, I sure went through roller coasters of emotion regarding my body! Here's a bit of my journey with pregnancy and body image. Pregnancy One--Indulgent Guilt I possessed zero self-control and gave into every craving. For a few months I enjoyed indulging. It was fun to eat out and ...

Body Image Lessons from an (almost) Butterfly Assassin

When I first read that Emily was writing about butterflies, I thought, "Oh, I bet this is about caterpillars waiting to bloom." Guess what, it's NOT! You must take a minute and read this very real (and kind of funny) lesson that Emily learned while helping her children with a  science experiment. My kids and I recently did a science experiment in which we watched caterpillars turn into butterflies under different circumstances. It was really fascinating, something I had never seen before. I am anti-bug, but my desire for my kids to not be afraid tends to trump the creepie-crawlies caterpillars and other such things give me. In my overzealous desire to make sure our butterflies were ...

Do You Deserve to Wear Shorts?

Do You DESERVE to Wear Shorts? A Cautionary Tale I spent nearly ten summers refusing to wear shorts. I compromised nearly a decade of summers--boiling in jeans, pretending I preferred them. Okay, okay, there were also a few broom skirts in there. It was the 90’s in the Pacific Northwest. I proudly donned earthy middle-eastern prints. They simply begged for patchouli and henna. Don’t judge. (You are allowed to judge the “Artisan Recycled Tire” sandals I bought at Pikes Place Market (Hello, nonsense!) but leave my earthy skirts out of it.) Why not shorts you ask? Because of my awful white legs *obviously* and my fatty fatness. Everyone knows fatty fatness and shorts do not go together. Right? It wasn’t ...

Worried About Daughter’s Weight? How to Stop Freaking Out!

As my daughter stood next to me in the bathroom and put on the tiny bit of mascara and lip gloss she announces that she thinks the crocheted head warmer she's wearing is "too much" for her outfit. I look at my wonderfully made, beautiful daughter in the mirror-- the one who has gone from a little girl to a woman right before my very eyes. In less than two years, she's shot up at least two feet, her face has lost its childishness, and her breasts. . . well, they exist now. Sometimes it's hard to remember that she's only a child. Not even preteen. There are non-physical changes in her as well. Her kindness continues to ...

Best Songs to Beat Insecurity

Have you noticed a common theme in some of the most popular songs on Christian radio right now? I sure have. There seems to be a trend of songs to encourage women (and men) about their true value and worth!  Here's my list of the best songs to beat insecurity! Share it with your friends and your daughter, too. It's a playlist all women need to have handy to fight bouts of depression or insecurity. I've shared a little about each song and a link to its You Tube video below. Then, at the bottom, I've put the whole playlist for you to use the links to iTunes if you want to grab the songs for ...

Improve Body Image This Summer: 8 Things to Do

What if I told you that the best things you could do for your body image this summer don't require you to lose weight or spend more time in the gym? You'd say I was crazy, right? Here's the truth. If you want to get in shape this summer, that's wonderful! I will be cheering along with you if you finally reach your goal weight or get conditioned enough to run that 5K. But what I want more than anything is for you to improve the state of your heart. I want you to know what it feels like to be accepted. To be loved. To be confident in your purpose here on this earth. I want you to ...

21 Myths Even Good Girls Believe About Sex – Book Review

It's not a secret, our culture is obsessed with sex. This leads to all sorts of challenges. For everyone. My friend Jennifer Stickland courageously decided to tackle some of the biggest issues surrounding this topic in her new book, 21 Myths Even Good Girls Believe About Sex. In it, she shares 21 myths that teen girls and young women often buy into about sex, helps them to see the truth that replaces the myth, and encourages them to pursue love with passion and purity. Your daughters, your friends, and young women you know need to read this book. But, you should probably read this book too! Here's why: When Jennifer first announced what she was writing, she asked for some volunteers ...

My Eating Disorder Story: Battling Bulimia & Receiving New Grace

It's my pleasure to introduce to you our newest contributor, Alicia Hunter from Turquoise Grace. Today Alicia shares her story of battling bulimia and how God's grace has worked in her life to bring her to a new place of health. I hope you'll read it and encourage Alicia for sharing her story so candidly! I’ve never really talked about it. While it’s not the best ice-breaking conversation starter, and tends to be rather personal, it’s not that I’m embarrassed. I’ve just never had a desire to, really. Or maybe I never had the right words. Once I moved long past it, I buried it deep, choking any thought of it seeing the light of day. In time, ...

What You Need Instead of Self-Esteem

There's nothing worse than being duped. Conned. Swindled. Misled. Deceived. Yet that's what has happened to so many of us on the issue of our body image. We've been told that if we had more self-esteem, then . . . then . . .we would feel like a bunch of hotties--like all the time. It's our dag gum low self-esteem that's dragging us down. Or so they say. . . If you missed the first post in this series, you can catch up here on why self-esteem is a total con and doesn't really help us, at all! Instead of re-hashing what's wrong with self-esteem, I want to offer us a replacement. It's not a "thing" yet. You may have ...