The Makings of my orthorexia As my body matured and grew through puberty, I found myself in an unhealthy romantic relationship with a boy that was crumbling. I also found myself busier and more stressed than ever between my honors classes, extracurriculars, sports,...
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How the Gospel Speaks to Comparison: Accepted Beyond Measure
Comparison is the name of the game in a gym. I hear it, I see it, I live it. In my classes I notice people work harder if the person next to them is working harder. I hear women tell other women that they wish their (insert body part here) looked more like her (insert...
Looking for More Help? Affordable Christian Body Image Coaching
Affordable, effective, and God-honoring body image coaching is now more accessible than ever. If you need a Christian body image coach, look no further than Heather from Compared to Who? How much freedom could you find if you had someone to talk to about what's...
What to Do if He Battles Lust: Help! My Christian Husband Looks at Porn.
Thanks to shelter-in-place orders and too much time at home with screens, pornography use is on the rise again. If your Christian husband looks at porn, or if you're wrestling the impact of porn use in your marriage, I hope you'll take a moment to read this and take...
What Christmas Speaks to My Body Image Issues
Eight Christmas parties in seven days. Fun, right? Can I just tell you that we have some friends who are foodies and, well, wow have I consumed some massive quantities of calories lately. So, this morning when I had the privilege of stepping on the scales at the...
Looking Hot Versus Modesty: A Letter to a Young Woman
My Dear Girl: Where did the time go? I just saw your picture on Facebook and could hardly believe how grown up you look. You are not that precocious five-year-old girl to whom I used to sing the Dora the Explorer song. You are technically an adult now. Wow! But, as I...
An Important Fight: Keep Fighting For Your Body Image
Five months before I wrote my first post for Compared to Who?, I spent a summer at home in Uganda with my family. Which included three and a half months of drinking water, no cookies, late night talks with ginger tea, laughing hard, and taking long uphill walks. When...
What Politics and Insecurity Have in Common
"Cast your vote for Heather. She's the girl with the broken foot!" Freshman year of college, during orientation weekend, I tore a ligament and shattered my third metatarsal while walking on a swinging bridge. Yes. Just walking. (I've never been accused of being...
My Hospitality Obstacle: the Chair of Shame
There it sits. The shame of my household. The reason my hospitality has declined. My hospitality obstacle. The chair. What once was a cozy rocking place for my baby sits shredded at the seams. The black leather chair we purchased for the arrival of our son, three...
Don’t Do These Things When You’re Feeling Insecure
“Did you say you run?” the disdain in the woman’s question hung thick over the group. All eyes turned on me as my face turned red in the summer heat. “I’m training for my first 5K along with my preteen son. We’re having a good time together jogging in the morning, and...