Why Is It So Hard to Get Rid of Clothes That Don’t Fit?

True story: Getting rid of clothes that don’t fit can be painful.

I’ve written about my experience getting “shame” out of my closet here. But, last week, one of our Compared to Who contributors, Kristin, put out a “HELP” message on the topic, “Why is it so hard to get rid of clothes that don’t fit?” in our Compared to Who contributors Facebook group. If you’ve ever wondered whether or not our contributors live the issues we right about or “really” say the things they say in these posts to each other, I think you’ll find the truth here in this Facebook interaction:

 

Here’s how it went:

Kristin: I loved the idea of cleaning out my closet of the stuff that doesn’t fit. I definitely used the excuses of saving money to fit into them some day again. I just didn’t realize how hard it would be to part with it.

I mean, it’s just stuff. How could I be so attached to something that doesn’t even fit, hasn’t for a year, and was taking up space, which meant I always had to look at it? I even went shopping last week, buying things that actually fit with the knowledge I would be clearing out the things that wouldn’t. But this process is paining my heart. I was attached to the idea of being that size again. Truthfully, I was that size for only a few months due to a drastic, unsustainable diet (21 Day Fix, anyone? The workouts are great though!).

But realizing I’m so attached to stuff and seeing how much I’m donating, I feel ashamed on that level too. Prayers and encouragement please.

Has anyone else been through this and felt this way?

Mindy Pickens Compared to WhoMindy: Been there. I find it helpful to really step back and look at how much value I attach to size. What was different about you at that 21 Day Fix size?

Were you more valuable?

Were you any less you?

What about you changes with your body size?

If you can think through these things and see that body size is neutral in terms of value and significance, then you can more easily just beautifully dress the body you have now.

I’m sure when there was revival in Israel, and the people cast aside their idols into the rivers and tore down their places of worship, they too had sadness. Loss. Loss of what is familiar and gave them hope, even false hope.

Talk to yourself like you’d talk to a girlfriend, with compassion and truth. Blessings of freedom to you tonight.

Heather Creekmore speaking body image ChristianHeather: Yes! I had a pair of navy blue sailor shorts from banana republic outlet. They fit while I was breastfeeding baby #3, chasing 2 toddlers and working out a lot. Never again.

It was so hard to part with them!! I finally (seven years later!!) put them in a garage sale at church in April. A few weeks later a friend was wearing them. Wow! I fought all the crazies!

I was ready to crash diet! What could I do to be as small as her?? But I Gospel-ed myself into letting it go. It was a day of battling though. Pretty sure I came home and worked out!

Stay strong. Your value is not in your clothing tag.

Erin Kerry Compared to Who Contributor Head ShotErin: Ugh. I’m holding on to some red shorts I wore when I first met my husband. I felt so cute back then, so I keep thinking if I get into those, I’ll feel cute again. Funny side note – I am technically the same size, but because of the redistribution of weight after two babies and loss of muscle tone and I’m not laying by a pool every day, they don’t fit the same. At all.

So whyyyy do I still have them?

I never thought about this so deeply and put it all together until now.

Compared to Who Christian women and body image contributor Christine SalinasChristine: Yes, going through it right now!

 

 

 

 

Have you struggled to let go of clothes that don’t fit? Tell us about your struggles here! Because, obviously, we get it! 

7 Comments
  • Stephanie R Coker
    June 22, 2017

    I had a pair of size 10 jeans (large to some people, but the size was very hard to achieve for me), and maybe they fit one arm now? My doctor suggested that I take pictures of clothes that I didn’t want to part with because they were beautiful and I hadn’t worn them for awhile. I’m still holding on to the jeans…

    • Heather Creekmore
      June 22, 2017

      Awww. . .I get it Stephanie. It’s hard. So, so, so hard! I just gave up a gorgeous black business suit too – several sizes too small and I don’t even WEAR suits anymore – ever. But, still hard to part with because it was beautiful. I get it! Hugs!

  • Amy
    June 22, 2017

    I think you were in my closet last week when I was trying to clean it out. I had the revelation that I was mourning how I felt when I wore those old clothes and that it was an emotional connection to that time in my life. My husband couldn’t understand how I had a hard time giving away a garment that hasn’t fit for years in order to make space for a new one that does fit. Thank you for letting me know that I’m not the only one who struggles with this!

    • Heather Creekmore
      June 22, 2017

      Awww… Yes, Amy! I think we’re all right there with you. Solidarity in mourning the loss of old clothes – maybe we need to start a club! 😉

  • Genessa
    June 26, 2017

    I have been wrestling with this for awhile now and it’s so nice to know I’m not the only one. I have so many cute clothes that no longer fit due to recent weight gain. I had most of them packed up for a yard sale but then had a great idea for motivation, or so I thought. I put them all back in my closet so that I’d have to see them every day. I thought it would inspire me to work out more and eat better (less). The result was quite the opposite of encouragement. I felt even more discouraged, and my thoughts were even more focused on what I wasn’t doing. There was a lot of guilt and shame. Father God has been walking me through this process and I am learning to love me as I am now, finding my value and worth in how God sees me and not a clothing tag. So I have once again cleaned out my cute, “skinny” clothes and putting them in a yard sale this weekend. I’m very grateful for this encouraging article!

    • Heather Creekmore
      June 26, 2017

      Thanks for sharing that Genessa . . . Yes, it’s a real struggle isn’t it. And I think that’s the conventional wisdom too, right? Keep those old clothes as motivation, they say. But, I’ve found the same to be true. Those old clothes just cause shame. Prayers for you as you continue on your journey to breaking that power of the size tag. Sigh. It’s so tough for us women, isn’t it? Hugs, Heather

  • callista83
    July 2, 2017

    For me it’s more about the fact that I don’t have money for new clothes so I live in a few hand me downs. So when I go up a size, I don’t want to get rid of the old clothes because if I do go down a size, I won’t be able to buy new clothes. But I guess I can get more hand me downs?

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