I Have an Eating Disorder

Today’s post is written by a friend–a very courageous friend who thought it best that her name be left off of this vulnerable confession. Like the author, I too struggled with an eating disorder when I was in my teens and twenties, yet I didn’t have anorexia or bulimia so I assumed I was fine. I shared some of my story in this related post. I hope you’ll take a few minutes and read this woman’s story of her struggle with food and disordered eating.


It happened so quickly. Or at least it felt like it did. I found myself back in the pattern of control, restricting my food, and over exercising. My mind was a jumbled mess of weight, food, numbers, exercise, and calories. I recognized the familiar power it had over me and knew it had gone too far for me to break out of it alone this time. This wasn’t my first go around with this type of thing.

After some friends showed concern, I knew it was time to make the phone call. I called a therapist I once knew and told her, “I do NOT have an eating disorder.” (I was very clear about that!) Instead, I had some issues with food that I needed help with.

I was sure I didn’t have an eating disorder. Instead, I had some food issues and body image struggles. How did I know? Easy.

  • People with eating disorders were very thin, and I was at a healthy weight.
  • People with eating disorders were miserable and unable to function, and I was doing okay, even if things weren’t picture perfect.
  • People with eating disorders never ate anything or they threw up everything they ate, and I did neither.
  • People with eating disorders most definitely didn’t weigh the amount I saw when I stepped on the scale.

So, obviously, I didn’t have an eating disorder.

Yet I weighed myself multiples times a day–crying if the number went up, even if it was between morning and bedtime within the same day.

I feared that everything I ate would turn to fat on my body. I convinced myself that 2 hours at the gym each morning and a run every evening was the necessary amount of exercise to not gain weight. Overly aware of the fat on my body, I could “feel” it all the time.

I was anxious about being at social events where food was around. I felt guilt about everything I ate, even thought I knew I had to eat to survive. I thought about food and exercise ALL of the time. Yet only two of my closest friends even knew something was wrong. To the outside world, I looked happy and healthy.women covering eyes

I was aware that these issues with food weren’t normal, but I was also sure that I wasn’t skinny enough to have an eating disorder. I was embarrassed to even ask for help, because surely no one would take me seriously at my current weight. At one point I got so desperate that I thought about fasting for a few weeks so I would lose weight and look skinny enough to merit asking for help.

Eating disorders go far beyond textbook anorexia and bulimia. One in ten individuals struggle with eating disordered behaviors that can cause serious health issues. Often it is those who appear to be a healthy weight who are actually the most sick and at risk. Contrary to popular belief, body size is not an indicator of the presence or lack of an eating disorder. Don’t be fooled.

I did the meetings, hoping my dietitian and therapist could give me a quick fix for “people who don’t have eating disorders but who just have some food issues.” Come on! Surely there was a quick fix! I wanted to get in and out of this process. I’m talking like three sessions, max.

But, it didn’t work quite like that. I finally read a book my dietitian recommended titled, Life Without ED, by Jenni Schaefer. Halfway through the book it hit me. My internal dialogue went something like this:

“Oh no. No. No. No. No. That’s me. All of those things she does/thinks/believes/hears that she says are the eating disorder. . . She just described exactly what is going on inside of me.”Quieting the inner voice

This wasn’t a fun realization. It took some time of going back and forth with my therapist about it, but I see now just how crucial that realization was.

Until I was able to admit, “This is an eating disorder, and this is a problem,” I wasn’t able to start taking steps toward wholeness. That acknowledgement was my key to unlock progress, forward movement and healing. Only then I could let God and people into this process, totally exposed, to help me find real freedom.

I’m not encouraging you to slap a label on yourself or anyone else. Trust me. I am super “anti-label”, because I believe so deeply that all freedom is possible through God. Labels shouldn’t ever define you or hang over your head like a cloud.

Nor am I encouraging you to go see a therapist and spend the rest of your life talking about your problems so much that you end up magnifying them. Turning your molehills into mountains with your words isn’t wise or productive.

But I AM encouraging you to take an honest look at yourself and assess how free you really are. Does food, exercise and body image control your life and dominate your thoughts? Are you tired of managing these things, and would you rather get rd of them altogether?

One of the most freeing things I did was say, “I have an eating disorder.” And I only said it to myself, my treatment team, and a close friend. You don’t have to broadcast it to the world or make it your identity. But being able to say it, gives you the ability to overcome it.

And you know what? The fact that I have an eating disorder is a problem. God’s girls aren’t meant to live as captives to anything. BUT…it is the perfect opportunity for my problem-solving Father to come and do what He does best. If there is a problem, there is a solution. If we don’t admit there is a problem, we never get around to looking for the solution.

As Christian women, we can’t be like ostriches and stick our heads in the sand, ignoring the issues that arise in our lives. We must look at the problem straight on and say, “Yeah – this is a giant in my land. It is big, scary, and I can’t conquer this alone. But my God is bigger than any giant. And as a matter of fact, He loves to crush giants. He loves to show himself strong on behalf of His people. So – you unholy thing, you better watch out because God is on my side, and we are going to demolish you!”

His will is for us to live in freedom, and if it is His will, it IS possible. YOU can live in freedom. That person you love, who you suspect has an eating disorder…THEY can live in freedom. That woman you’re going to meet in a few years, who needs someone to reach out to her and offer her understanding, wisdom and support…SHE can live in freedom.

Don’t stick your head in the sand. There is much, much more for you. God wants to help you walk in ALL of the freedom He so graciously offers. More than you can ask or imagine.

4 Comments
  • Lori
    October 3, 2016

    I am not at a healthy weight. I have had a weight problem since I was a child. My family often talked of how beautiful I would be “if only I would lose some weight” or “lose that gut”. Being over 50 years old, I still carry this monkey on my back. Sometimes it overwhelms me to the point of immobilizing me. I understand that only the Lord of all creation can truly help me. I just seem to wallow in my sorrow that I have yet made another negative choice. I recently have asked how I can even go and ask God ONE MORE TIME to forgive my gluttonous ways as they always seem to return and I will surely overindulge again so why would God offer me that forgiveness one more time. I feel as if I am drowning. . . .

    • Heather Creekmore
      October 5, 2016

      Lori, thank you so much for sharing that so honestly and openly. There is a wonderful Christian organization called Finding Balance you can find on this page . I think they may offer some great support to you. But, God’s forgiveness never runs out. He surely will continue to cherish you and forgive you as his beloved daughter. I think talking about these issues with someone could be a big help to you. I hope you’ll check out Finding Balance. I’d also like to pray for you right now: Dear Heavenly Father – please help Lori right now. You know how all consuming our issues can be. We acknowledge that you alone can rescue us from that drowning feeling. You are the one who can save us and has saved us so that we can be free. Dear Lord, please show Lori her path to freedom through you. Encourage her, reassure her, and let her see how clearly and completely you love her. In Jesus Name – Amen. Don’t give up, Lori. God’s working. Hugs.

  • Donna
    May 21, 2016

    Just found your site. This is great.

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